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Putting Oneself First: A Necessary Act That Is Not Selfish

Updated: Dec 29, 2021

We've all heard those famous words by Mahatma Gandhi: "The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others". While servicing others and helping each other out is very fulfilling, trust us, it is not the only way to find oneself.

We see YOU; the YOU that comes from a broken home, the YOU that just got out of a toxic relationship, and the YOU that is struggling to make ends meet. We wish that we could take that burden and grief off your shoulders. No one deserves that kind of pain. But, alas, only YOU have the power to make things better.

It is unreal just how strong you are. You just don't know the degree of your strength. You must search for this strength and guess what the sure-fire method of finding yourself is? It is none other than losing yourself in... well, YOURSELF.

You must take a deep breath and focus on the person that has always been by your side, the person that deserves your utmost love. That person is you. So, let's look at a few ways how you can put yourself first.

The beauty of prioritizing oneself lies in the fact that the process will vary from individual to individual. That's how unique and special you are, and we don't care what others have to say about it.

While meditation and self-reflection help, one of the most practical ways to put yourself first is by taking a break from social media. Trust us, social media detox works wonders when it comes to your mental health. It will also help you better live in the moment without worrying about the opinions of others.

This next tip might be hard to implement for some, but you must learn to say no. We've all been raised with a false sense of politeness. It is 100% okay to say no to anything, be it a hangout, a conversation, a request for a favor, or anything really if you're not in the mood. Trust us, your friends should not and would not mind it.

Once you learn to say no, you'll find that it is so easy to take time to yourself. Draw yourself a bath, treat yourself to that dessert that you've been meaning to try, take yourself out on a date, work out a bit, or spend the entire day in bed binging your favorite sitcom.


You are the curator of your story, and many of us would be honored to be a part of it.

You are not alone.

You are doing great.

And we are so proud of you.

Remember when we said that you can make things better? Well, the word "better" is overrated.

Trust us, happiness is subjective. It's not comparable, and it's not measurable. For some, it is the opposite of being sad, and for others, it is the feeling of immense joy. Let's find what it means for us, shall we?

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