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Is Having Expectations In A Relationship Good Or Bad?

When it comes to relationships, expectations can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, having expectations can bring clarity and purpose to your relationship, but on the other hand, too many expectations can lead to conflict and dissatisfaction.


This can be especially true if expectations are unclear or mismatched between two partners. In this blog post, we will look at whether having expectations in a relationship is good or bad, and how therapy can help couples navigate these expectations to build a healthier, more satisfying relationship.




The difference between an expectation and a demand


Expectations are an integral part of any relationship, however, it is important to understand the distinction between an expectation and a demand. An expectation is an idea or belief about what you or your partner should be doing in a relationship, while a demand implies that you have the right to have something done for you and will not accept anything else.


When it comes to expectations in a relationship, there can be both positive and negative outcomes. On the one hand, having expectations can give a sense of security and certainty in the relationship, as it provides the opportunity to develop clear boundaries and expectations.


On the other hand, if these expectations are not met, they can lead to conflict and disappointment. Furthermore, when expectations become too high and rigid, they can also lead to stress and resentment, impacting both partners’ mental health.


Therefore, it is important to be aware of the difference between an expectation and a demand in order to maintain a healthy and balanced relationship.


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